Such a huge turn of events! My life is going to be flipped upside-down! My son’s father and I have decided to do a 50/50 split custody for the benefit of my family and his. We both feel that he needs both families equally. This is a great arrangement! I’m so excited to start this journey!
But there is always a catch… I have to relocate. The details of getting there are overwhelming. New job, new place to live, new school for my daughter, hell even a new grocery store. The level of feelings that comes over me when I focus on this, is just too many to count. What’s the next step? What should be priority? What resources should I research first? Who will be my support?
Then the feeling of loneliness takes over. When you realize that you have to do this on your own, you can experience an extreme fear. Getting this right is important. I have to be able to do a hundred things at once: providing for my kids, transferring my whole life to another state, cooperating with my ex and his new family.
“Slow down!” I tell myself. This is just temporary. I can make things happen in this situation. There can be controlled decision making. There can be chances to expand. There are opportunities to help me, I just have to find them.
Expanding my resources is first on my list. I have to find a way to generate an income that can relocate with me. Searching the internet for at home jobs, business opportunities, etc., isn’t easy. If you don’t have a lot of experience in sales or IT work, it is very difficult to find an hourly paid career online. Starting your own business can be a way to go, but you still have to have your 9-5 while doing so.
My over all point here is that life will change drastically and you have to be able to roll with the punches. Picking one thing at a time to tackle be issues like this is so important. Stepping back and listing priorities helps, but you also have to balance taking care of yourself. Don’t forget to breath and live. After some research, I’ll keep the balance by taking an hour to spend with my kids, then come back to the research. Breaking up the day helps to not stress about the changes to come. They will happen, when the time is right. Keep your head up.
I’ll be recording my journey to the new life, so stay with me! Things are changing and I’m going to be ready.